Why She Never Calls You Back

Have you ever been in a situation where you get a girl’s number and you think everything went well, but when you get in touch with her she never returns your calls? Suppose she wasn’t a stranger, maybe you met at a barbeque at your friend’s house. Shouldn’t it be easier to get in touch …

Surviving A Breakup – Getting Your Self Esteem Back

Unfortunately that “wound”, i.e. the memory, remains with you for the rest of your life, that is if you let it. Like any other wound it can and must be “healed” in order for you to feel whole, complete, strong, resilient, confident and capable again. Now by “healed” I am not referred to what many refer to as the process of grieving.

In my view grieving is not actually a healing process rather a process which through the passage of time the memory becomes more deeply buried in the subconscious mind. Its burial however does not mean that it or its effects have disappeared. Markers of its ongoing presence repeatedly surface as the feelings I mentioned above.

In my experience the only way to finally close that open wound is to have the memory permanently erased so that it feels to the individual that the event actually never took place. That’s much like removing a landmine from the ground permanently so that it will never go off again. In this case one would be removing the “emotional landmine” or the memory itself.

If you are one of those people who have had enough of the pain associated with your breakup and would like to get back into life and living you can learn more about this new coaching process by visiting the web site below.

There you can request a free e-copy of my book and/or request a free introductory telephone/Skype coaching consultation that will help you restart your relationship life.

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Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor, is an International Expert Self Empowerment Life Coach, Relationship and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Coaching Consultation And Free Copy of My E-book are available upon request (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

Want To Delete Old Needy Immature Patterns That Destroy Your Relationships?

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In the process, she/he also surrenders their association with his/her true Authentic Self and the latter sort of goes “underground” often never to be recovered again. This causes the individual to literally sacrifice it’s true self and to assume a conditioned, scripted, “false self” who is supposedly more acceptable and lovable to others.

Indeed, the “part” of themselves that is missing is their “essence” or “core self”.

I have referred to this essence as one’s Life Force Energy or LFE. Each time an individual experiences a negative or traumatic event (i.e. one that attempts to negate or invalidate their true self) this causes them to “die” a little bit. Another way of saying this is that it causes some of their LFE to become depleted from their mind/body.

The imposed expectations I noted above are examples of the traumatic invalidations I just referred to. As the person “leaves” their mind/body the socially imposed expectations take over much like a scripted (computer) program and takes over the person’s empty shell of a body/mind.

In other words the person’s mind/body and life have effectively become hijacked while the person themselves is absent and no where to be found. This is what accounts for the deep feelings of immaturity, inadequacy, and incompetence when it comes to having a fulfilling life and healthy satisfying relationships.

So is there a way to restore this situation to its normal and natural state? Absolutely!

One must effectively help the LFE to re-integrate with the mind/body that it was supposed to reside within. In other words one must restore the person to wholeness and hence also into a fully alive and living, functional, human being. So how is this accomplished?

Well, by systematically deleting the storehouse of pre-programmed socially imposed expectations that have inhabited the mind/body. As this is done the person’s LFE progressively and irreversibly returns to and re-integrates with the mind/body leaving them feeling like the Authentic Human Self they were always meant to be.

To learn more about a new coaching process that helps individuals achieve this re-integration kindly visit the web site below where you can also request a free introductory telephone/Skype coaching consultation that will begin to help take you there today.

Author’s Bio: 

Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor is an International Expert Life, Relationship and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author of Esteem For The Self: Restoring the Divine Holographic Energy Field With The Mind Resonance Process® (MRP) and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Consultation is available upon request (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

Relationships – Does “The Need to Be Validated by Others” Spell a Healthy Relationship?

There are many unhealthy unconscious reasons that lead individuals to seek out a relationship. These include things such as:

1. The fear of being alone.

2. The fear that one will not make it in life alone.

3. The need to be taken care of.

4. The belief that one needs the help of another to overcome life’s challenges.

5. The need to be and feel loved.

6. The need to be validated

And so on.

In this article I will focus my attention on the last item in this list, “the need to be validated”.

What does it mean to “be” validated? Well it entails the feeling that one is acknowledged, that one feels like they exist, that they are important, that their purpose in being here matters, that they and what they believe matters to someone and therefore themselves.

Why is it so important to be and feel validated? Well if you look at what it feels like not being validated you’ll immediately recognize that it entails a deep feeling of emptiness, feeling invisible and unimportant and with this comes a sense of purposelessness and meaningless that borders on the feeling of annihilation.

Clearly this is a deep and dark chasm that must be filled by something or “someone” if one is to feel able to move on in their lives. In many cases individuals who feel this way will turn to others to get this emptiness filled. What are the consequences of this strategy?

Well first of all it sets up a lopsided relationship based on deep dependency feelings. This is clearly a task that no partner can ever completely fulfill. This causes undue strain on the relationship eventually leading to its demise.

Is there some way in which one can address their own needs for validation and end their suffering once and for all? Yes!

So as you can see such memories, which I call “life energy parasites” deplete your life energy and make you feel the sense of emptiness and annihilation.

By releasing these negative memories from their minds/bodies with a new process called the Mind Resonance Process® (MRP) it is now possible to reclaim one’s life energy thereby extinguishing the feelings of emptiness and hence the need to be validated once and for all.

This will place you on a firmer footing when it comes to relationships. To learn more visit the link below.

Author’s Bio: 

Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor, is an International Expert Self Empowerment Life Coach, Relationship and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Coaching Consultation And Free Copy of My E-book are available upon request (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

Want to Feel Whole, Complete And Attractive As A Person?

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Do you know that most people, whether they choose to admit it to themselves or not, feel a sense of inadequacy and incompleteness within? How do I know this? Well if you look around and witness the extent to which many attempt to prop themselves up with wealth, sexy looks, flashy clothes, fancy cars, hip partners, plastic surgery, power, etc. you will recognize that there is a deep need that is attempting to satisfy itself here. Do you know that need is essentially insatiable and speaks to a deep feeling of emptiness that lies at the core of the current human condition?

Finally do you know that “condition” is an abnormal one that not only needs permanent rectification but which can be rectified if approached in the correct manner? What is that approach you ask?

This feeling of emptiness is more often recognized or “felt” as feelings of inadequacy or incompleteness. The former is probably more familiar to most while the latter gets cloaked behind relationships. After all, how many times have you heard the phrase “you complete me”?

So how is this empty state “abnormal” you ask if it is all around us and being experienced by practically everyone you know? Well for one because it “feels” bad, uncomfortable and undesirable. Secondly, it has control over practically everyone’s life. In other words individuals who obsessively try to navigate around this empty feeling are only feeling enslaved and dictated to by it.

So what is normal, you might ask?

Well, notice how this feels to you:

A person who feels whole, complete, adequate, emotionally independent, self sufficient, strong, confident, resilient, self directed, self assured, self validating, spontaneous, authentic, honest, living their truth, in integrity, peaceful, joyful, carefree, free and attractive, to name a few.

Now I know you will say that this sounds like a rarity and also impossible to achieve or sustain indefinitely given life’s stressors. I will say however that not only is this possible it is also supposed to be the “normal” human condition. So if that is the case how is that we find ourselves in such a sad, depleted, and debilitated state. More over what, if anything can be done to get us back “home” to ourselves?

Well, it turns out that the emptiness reflects a deficiency in what I call one’s Life Force Energy (or LFE). LFE is essentially the vital energy of life that is a) the source of all the positive resources I mentioned above and b) is responsible for the structural and functional integrity of your mind, body and life.

Each time a person experiences a stressful negative event the memory of the event gets downloaded into the subconscious mind/body and there behaves like a “hole” in the person’s energy field that constantly leaks out LFE rendering them feeling depleted and therefore empty.

It is now possible to permanently and completely “plug” those holes and restore LFE simply by deleting the memories of those stressful events from the mind/body. As this happens the person begins to return to their “normal” natural and empowered state as the human being they were meant to be.

To learn more about a new coaching process that has been helping individuals around the world achieve this kindly go the web site below where you can also request a free introductory telephone/Skype consultation that will begin to help you take your energy and your life back.

Author’s Bio: 

Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor, is an International Expert Self Empowerment Life Coach, Relationship and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Coaching Consultation And Free Copy of My E-book are available upon request (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

***So, You Want a Sexy Voice?

There was a movie from the 80’s called Victor/Victoria in which one of the characters was a very sexy woman who sounded like a bimbo. You can see the reaction of her lover who finds her voice annoying. At this point in the film, he has lost interest in her and is turned off by her nasal, whiny, childlike sound. Unfortunately, she is incapable of expressing herself with a sensuous tone because of the irritating qualities of her voice.

When you think of all the great voices which have a sensual quality, like that of Kathleen Turner, Cher, George Clooney, Ashley Judd, Kate Beckinsale, and the late great Barry White, there is one characteristic which they all share: depth. Not one of these voices is high-pitched. Each one falls within the lower register of his/her speaking range.

Most people are not using their ‘real’ or ‘true’ voice which means that the pitch of their habitual voice is higher than it should be. You have a deeper voice inside of you and it falls within your optimum range. It is merely a matter of finding it.

Yes, tone matters but your vocal instrument is where the quality lies. Change how you place your sound and you will be amazed at just how hot your voice can be!

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Get Your Ex “Hypnotized” Into Getting Back With You Using This Reverse-Psychological Mind Trick!

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If you are reading this article, you have separated with your partner and your mind is probably dominated by the thoughts of how to get them back with as little heartache and effort as possible. Well, I have good news and bad news. The bad news is that it will require some effort and persistence on your part.

The good news is that the text below will give you a strategy that will give you an unfair advantage over so many other people who don’t get their ex back because they don’t have a solid plan of action and rely on trial-and-error to get their relationship back on track.

The first thing you need to do is to stop communicating with your ex for a short period of time. This step seems counter-intuitive, but it is extremely effective. It’s understandable if you’re tempted to start calling your ex incessantly, send gifts, e-mail and text-message them, or make any other gestures that you think will get them to take you back. But it’s important not to act on those impulses for two reasons.

First, you need to be aware that break ups are highly emotional events and when they happen your actions are mostly clouded by these negative emotions.

This is bad news because this can lead you to do or say something to your ex without thinking it through first which will destroy any chance of you two getting back together. So the best course of action would be for you to first recover from the negative emotions you went through as a result of the break up. Only then will you be able to make a rational decision about what to do next without your emotions getting in the way.

This will also make your ex perceive you as an individual who can handle the break up in a mature manner without resorting to desperate acts like the ones mentioned above. Most people expect their partners to become clingy and needy but you will not make the same mistake. This will count in your favor and your ex will be more open to consider getting back with you when the time comes for you to open the lines of communication with them again.

Another aspect to consider is, when you meet with your ex for the first time after the break up, you need to be calm and relaxed. The atmosphere and the conversation must not become uncomfortable or awkward at any time. Invite your ex for a friendly drink and don’t talk about your relationship at first.

Your priority should be to make him or her feel comfortable in your presence first and foremost. Once they do, they will be far more receptive to the prospect of getting back together with you.

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Please pay close attention here,

I urge you to read the next page very carefully. It outlines a step-by-step system that uses simple powerful psychological techniques guaranteed to get your ex back in your arms again. Discover how you can use the same system to get your relationship back on the right track once more.

Men, Women and the Fear of Emotional Commitment

Men, Women and the Fear of Emotional Commitment

Do you ever wonder why you find yourself repeatedly sabotaging your relationships? Well the most likely cause is an underlying Fear of Emotional Commitment. What’s at the root of this fear and how can one completely eliminate it?
Emotional commitment entails the ability to comfortably feel and express one’s deepest emotions with one’s partner. It may not surprise you that many individuals are extremely uncomfortable with their own emotional life. Why is that?

Alcohol and drug use are common methods employed to numb ones self from re-experiencing this re-emerging pain. Of course we all know the consequences of their use. Others tend to resort to pre-programmed automatic self sabotaging behaviours that push the partner away thereby reducing the emotional stimulus.

In order to free one’s self from this prison it becomes necessary to uproot the unconsciously buried memories that behave like old emotional landmines and permanently erase them. Once erased, they will no longer need to be guarded against and the person will reclaim their full ability to feel and share those feelings with others in a confident and resilient manner.

If you would like to learn more about a new coaching modality that does just this rapidly and effortlessly kindly visit the web site below where you can also request a free introductory telephone/Skype consultation.

Author’s Bio: 

Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor, is an International Expert Life, Relationship and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Coaching Consultation And Free Copy of My E-book are available upon request (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

How to Achieve a Healthy Authentic Relationship

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What is an “Authentic Relationship”?

Well simply it is one in which both partners are “authentically themselves”!

Does such a species exist on this planet yet? I would like to think so however I would like to expound on how there can be many more.

Let me start by addressing the garden variety relationship which in many cases is fraught with what are termed co-dependency issues on both sides. These are what I consider “inauthentic relationships” because each individual is choosing to behave as if they are lacking something which they hope their partner will supply for them to make them feel whole.

So what is meant by feeling “whole”?

So few ever contemplate this question thereby making it feel like such an ethereal matter. There is however a very specific meaning to the feeling of wholeness that few individuals ever get to experience.

The feeling of wholeness is experienced when one has their Life Force Energy “fully” installed within their mind and body. So what does that mean?

Now I know this will sound, perhaps absurd to you but please bear with me for a moment.

If you focus on some negative memory stored inside you that you consider is part of your so-called life history, you’ll notice that that memory causes a definite drain on your Life Force Energy. In other words it’s killing you.

So what chance does your relationship stand of ever being authentic if you aren’t? Well very little.

The only way to achieve an authentic relationship is for you to be fully installed in your body.

The only way to accomplish that is to release your identifications and attachments to those negative memories stored inside you which are depleting your Life Force Energy from your body.

To learn more about how to have Healthy Authentic Relationships visit the links below.

Author’s Bio: 

Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor, is an International Expert Life, Relationship and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Coaching Consultation And Free Copy of My E-book are available upon request (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

11 Simple Techniques to Cope with Grief during the Holidays

Dealing with the holidays while you are grieving for a loved one can be stressful and emotionally exhausting. For most of us the holiday season magnifies the absence of the person lost. You may feel that long-held traditions can never be the same or could be awkward. It can be sad shopping for gifts and seeing something that you know a departed loved one would have really enjoyed. Preparing yourself emotionally for the holidays and evaluating what they mean to you, plus developing a coping strategy before the holiday season can help. Here are a few tips for developing a plan:

1) Prepare: Prepare yourself emotionally. Let yourself know that it is OK to feel sad. Share your feelings with friends and loved ones beforehand. Let them know what you feel up to doing. Let them know specific activities you may not be able to handle. Take time for yourself, but do not become isolated.

2) Develop a holiday plan. During the most significant days of the holiday plan where you’ll be, who you will be with and what you will be doing. Take your own car if possible; this allows you to be in control. Perhaps plan something completely different than your traditional celebrations. As long as you have goals for the coming weeks it will be easier to stick to them when you are dealing with up and down emotions.

6) Get Moving: Take care of your physical well-being; staying still is terrible for your energy. Even though it can be difficult, get moving. Take a walk with a friend, go to the gym, swim, ride a horse, walk your dog, do something that makes your body move for at least 30 minutes a day.

9) Stay Hopeful: Think about things you would like to do in the coming year. Make plans for a trip or to accomplish some goal. Do something new every year. It can become a tradition. Think about doing something that you know would have made your loved one smile. Consider starting a journal and recording the process of moving into your new life. Many bereaved eventually learn to enjoy the holidays, often in new and special ways.

11) Adopt: If you have room in your home and heart consider adopting a shelter dog or cat. They will pay you back with love 10 fold and they don’t care what you look like, if you have bad breath or if you are having a bad day. An animal companion can soften your sadness and remind you that love is still in your world. You just have to reach out and touch it.

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